Marriage is a contractTuesday, March 27, 2012
That was an excerpt from my book, "Out of Status".
And that includes "looking good" all the time!
The past few weeks had been hectic. Every morning, I would get up with an intention to work-out. Hence, the first outfit worn consisted of my favorite faded pink Old Navy sweat shirt and sweat pants.
But like most stay at home mothers, I would lose track of time. Most of the time, I'd get pulled into doing other things except for working out. So by the time I picked up my husband, I would still be in my work out clothes, hair tied back in a very tight pony tail and tired-looking (not a hint of powder, lipstick or mascara).
My husband had been working long hours -- going in early and coming home late. So for the past few Fridays, he would "out of the blue" suggest that we stop-by our favorite wine and dine place while our littlest guy was still in gymnastics. We had 90 minutes -- just the two of us!
However, for the past four Fridays, I didn't realize I would be sitting in a restaurant having wine and cheese. He would laugh that I was still in my work-out clothes, but I didn't mind because I didn't think it was that important. Although I looked like the hired help!
The few spontaneous "dinner dates" helped my husband and I talked about our week. He reminded me that ignoring the way I present myself physically was a breach of our marriage contract!
"I didn't know we were going out -- again." I replied.
"But you knew I was coming home." he answered.
Every now and then, I read our ketuvah, which hangs on the wall in the den.
How do you keep your marriage as strong as it was the first time you said ,"I do's" ?