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How do you get to the light at the end of the tunnel?

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity;
an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty” – Winston Churchill

When you fall, what direction do you head to?
When you reach the bottom of the hill, don’t you hike back up?
When you cried your eyes out, don’t you start feeling better?
When you made a mistake, don’t you ponder and move on?

There’s no time machine that can re-do what already happened;
There’s no magic wand that can wipe-out all the misgivings;
There’s no nose-twitching that can change the direction of the wind;
There’s nothing you can do to undo what’s already been done.

The difference between learning and regressing,
The difference between happiness and misery,
The difference between victory and losing,
The difference is your attitude in moving forward!

We all make mistakes, and its fine to feel bad about it;
Pour out your emotions and give yourself a day;
Ponder, reflect, ruminate, deliberate – work on it one last time;
But once it’s done – kick yourself and stand up and make the most of it!

When you are hurting, force yourself to smile.
It takes too much energy to be negative and miserable.
Looking at the bright side, not looking back to regret
But learning from what transpired - and picking up the pieces.

Listen to the children, listen to them laugh and cry
They fall and whimper, they complain and whine.
Yet they pull themselves together, standing up, bright-eyed and giggling.
As true as the sun sets and as glorious as the sun rises the next day.

So stop feeling bad, sorry or desperate,
Give yourself a push – and chuckle on the way up,
Life is so short – you heard it plenty of times,
You and only you can direct the movie of your life!

Stop the could-have, should-have.
When it seems like you're in this never ending saga,
Have faith in God, your family and yourself.

Listen, and listen hard.

Be patient.


" I know that your goodness and love will be with me all my life;
and your house will be my home as long as I live. " - Psalms 23:6

How do you face the detours of life?

How do you get to the light at the end of the tunnel?

Once I get to the light at the end of the tunnel, it's always nice to have that apple-pie with vanilla ice cream, halo-halo or mojito depending on how tough the walk is!
Artwork by my 8yo using PAINT.


  1. Thanks again for these reminders. Sometimes I catch myself looking back and wallow in that "was" or "what could have been."

  2. Very well put.
    I'm glad I found your blog; you've been an inspiration to me.

  3. It all sums it up in these verses:

    Philippians 4:7-8
    And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

    Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

  4. @Mommisodes - I was beating myself up last night for flying EVA Air instead of Northwest - I can really use those frequent flyer miles :(

    @Becca, I think we all inspire each other, glad you're here, too!

    @Alicia - so true, Amen!

  5. In order to get to the light at the end of the tunnel, you just have to keep on walking. I sometimes want to just sit on bottom and not move but then, I would stay stuck and not go anywhere!

    Thanks for sharing. It was worth reading again and again.

  6. I love this! My natural tendency is to look back and kick myself when I make mistakes, but that is so unproductive. God has a way of using our mistakes to grow and teach us anyway. And it keeps us humble! Always enjoy your blog! ;0)

  7. That was beautiful, Jenjen. Truly a great reminder for a pessimist like me.

  8. @ChocolateCoveredDreams - I do have to remind myself over and over at times...Just need to keep moving!

    @Veronica - I never would have thought you're a pessimist!

    @Melinda - welcome back! Glad to see you here..Complain and then move-on, yes!

  9. So beautifuly written. Dwelling really never helps does it.

  10. Beautifully said, as always. Your posts are very inspiring. :)

  11. I have to say I just keep walking, sooner or later I'll hit the end..and I know it will be all worth it!

    Boy is it ever, It's kinda like my teenager. I never gave up hope.. and now.. well he's kind of seen the light..
    =) all worth while!


  12. @ModernMom - Glad to see you here! You're right - sometimes we're pulled to dwell - just temporarily feels good but then - bang! It just makes your heart feel heavy!

    @Buckeroomama - love that you're here! I believe our paths have crossed to inspire each other!

    @Tami, same here with my kids. We should never give up on them no matter how trivial it is! Just keep walking - remember the footprints in the sand?

  13. Your posts are always so uplifting and inspiring! I've always believed that when you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up...that belief is what's gotten me through a lot of trials.


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