My husband has known me only with long, straight, dark brown/black hair style. Once in a while I change my hair style: Cut with layers, side-swept bangs, parted on the right, the left or the middle – but always shoulder length, if not longer.
Whenever I can, I tie my hair in a pony tail (which my husband dislikes), and once in a while in pig tails.
But the past few weeks, the thought of having a pixie hair cut or a really short hair style had been occupying my busy mind. (Especially after seeing Carey Mulligan at Wall Street Never Sleeps.)
I know that my head is a lot bigger and my face a lot wider, but a short hair cut is appealing – less time to dry and style. The last time I had my hair really short was 27 years ago when I was 20 years old and 15 pounds lighter.
When I was 40, I had it really long.
I figured before I turn 50 in a little over 3 years, I might as well try a new hair style that’s totally drastic because after that, as my husband would say,
“Honey, the implied warranty on our marriage contract states that we both maintain our physical appearance. No major alterations without the other partner’s consent. ”
So I checked, our ketubah (marriage certificate) that’s framed and hanging in our den says,
This is my beloved; This is my friend.
And each said to the other: “I promise to share with you in times of joy as in times of trouble. To talk and to listen, to honor and to appreciate you, to provide for and support you in trust and in love. I take you to be mine according to the law. I promise to share my hopes and thoughts and dreams with you. I will work with you to build our lives together. May we grow, our lives forever intertwined, our love bringing us closer. Let us create a home for us and our children based on love, and on honesty. May it be a home filled with peace, with happiness, and with love.”
I didn’t see anything about hair….(maybe it’s written in fine print that my poor eyes couldn’t decipher!)
But it’s just hair, right?
And after over a decade of teasing my husband about the “pixie hair style”, he said,
“Honey, buy a wig."
“A wig? You gotta be kidding!
Me? Big head. Big, round face.
Tried that when I used to work at a Beauty Supply store – and I didn’t look human at all!”
So he said,
“Okay, go ahead.”
So earlier this morning, I spent the first few hours of the morning checking out pictures from the past of me having short hair and compared to them when I had longer hair….
And now I’m having second thoughts.
So I called my friend-hairdresser. And her response,“Oh boy! You must be going through some major hormonal changes!
But if you really want to – just bring a few pictures next week when you come.
But I’m telling you, I did it before and I regretted it. You have such beautiful long
hair and that hair will not grow as fast as you think it will. Our hair grows about ½
an inch every month, if we’re lucky…So think it hard and decide before I snap it all off!
So after all that, I still don’t know what to do. (I’m leaning towards keeping the long hair!)
(Photo credits http://shorthairstylescuts.com/)
Isn’t it interesting that as you get older, trivial decision like a hair cut isn’t that trivial anymore?
I guess I can just fantasize having Carey Mulligan's cool and sassy hair style,
or just maybe..
just this once...
Have a great weekend everyone and keep smiling :)