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You look very pretty

"You look very pretty".  Four words that can make me laugh out loud --  I mean, hysterically loud!

My husband has never looked as handsome, fit and happy. His change in (wheat-free, low carb) diet, (isometrics) exercise and outlook in life have made me pause in awe whenever my eyes catch a glimpse of his face. Whether it's getting in to the car, having a conversation, sitting at the head of our dining room table, sitting on the couch watching episodes of "Strike Back",  sleeping next to me, or cooking scrambled eggs in the morning (which according to my kids are far better than mine!)

I'm in such awe (or is it because I need new prescription glasses?) that I've been spontaneously telling him, "You look handsome. You look really good!" .

And of course, he would reply by flashing that smile that made me fell in love with him -- just like the first time.

However, I noticed that he has not said anything about "ME". I haven't' been complimented for my looks. It's been a "no comment" lately.

So in one of our weekend trips to Hershey, PA,  I asked, "Hon, I know I've been busy and exhausted lately. Juggling a million things, and haven't had any sleep. Am I really that awful because you haven't said I look good lately."

I wasn't even shooting for "stunning" or "gorgeous". I just wanted to hear the words , "you look very pretty".

"Hon, I always have. Of course, you look lovely." he answered.

"You don't have to say that - I just noticed. It's true every winter. I hibernate and pile on layers of clothes - sweats and sweaters!"

The next morning, I was in the kitchen in my pajamas getting the kids ready for school.

I was making sandwiches for lunch while "killing" the scrambled eggs when my husband said, "You look very pretty."

I blurted out laughing because I knew he said that because I asked.

 I told him that he didn't have to say it especially when I, myself, don't feel pretty at all.

He smiled.

And every day since I mentioned it, out of nowhere, he'd say, "You look very pretty."

It's been almost a week, and I still burst out laughing every time my husband says, "You look very pretty." And I think those four words will continue to make me laugh hysterically.

(During our morning zen-walk to town)

“So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday.”  ~ Nicholas Sparks, "The Notebook"


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