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You complete me...

"You complete me …
I love him! I love him for the man he wants to be. And I love him for the man he"

Have you seen the Tom Cruise’s “Jerry MaGuire” movie? It’s probably one of the few Tom Cruise movie that I love to watch.

For years now, my older friend has been telling me that once I am nearing “menopause”, I will be putting MEN ON PAUSE. She said that once my hormones go awry, I will be looking at my husband in a different view – and she said, "It’s not that Twilight Edward-Bella kind of moment either!"

So far…I can say that I stare at my husband with the same love as I did before. (Sounds corny, but it's true)

In fact, the other day, while he was driving and I was seated at the passenger seat, I took a glimpse of his profile – and it reminded me of how I fell in love.

I’m a busy mom who enjoys seeing her kids happy;
I’m a sister, who misses spending time with her five brothers dearly;
I’m a daughter, who longs to be with his parents – especially these holiday season;
And yes, my husband does complete me!

I don’t know if there is such a thing as a perfect person, but my husband and I are perfect for each other.
We compromise.
We learn from one another.
We pick our battles.

Over two decades of being a mom,
I’ve messed-up quite a few,
I’ve learned a lot more,
And I’ve managed to live through -
hormones, tears and joy!

The little cuties love to say, “Yes, but…”
The pre-tweens start conversing like aliens;
The late teens will drive you insane;
The college kids will push their independence.

When things don’t seem in order,
Your initial reaction is to rattle their senses;
To say don’ts here and there;
To question the why’s and how come;

My husband, my partner, their father, my support –
He keeps me in check and taught me a lot;
“Pick your battle” – he always says;
It took a while, but it does make sense.

Not every single chore’s a fight;
Not every little chaos is an X-mark;
Not every request is a negotiation;
Not every discussion is a debate;
"Pick your battle", does make sense.

Compromise, analyze,
Guide and understand.
Reason, take a stand,
Discipline and Encourage.

Raising children is a job;
It is easier with honey around.
I can be the “good” one;
And sometimes be the “un-bending” one.
But either way, it’s all love - a mother’s love.

So learn how “how to pick your battle”
A lesson well-earned;
Smiles, peaceful disagreements;
Hugs and kisses – hand and hand.


  1. I LOVED reading this!! I'm at that "teen" stage now, and we're still trying to figure this out!!

    And so sweet about your husband! I know what you mean about staring at him in the car. I've done that before too!!

  2. And I pray that your bond will even grow more strong each day...It's really awesome when we find that "perfect mate"...No one's perfect really. But I think when couples learn to compromise and always are filled with love, love does cover so many offenses.

    And it is sad that there are many who are divorced or going through it...Marriage is such a special gift. Blessings to you sister.

  3. I feel the same way about hubby , too. He's the yang to my yin. :)

  4. Hi there,sister!! This is such a beautiful post. I bless the day I found my hubby!!

  5. @Alicia...teen age can be fun..and doesn't it tickle your heart?
    @Rcubes...yes, marriage is definitely a special gift.
    @Buckeroomama - i love that yang and yin combo!
    @Veronica, thank you and enjoy the blessings!


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