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Be true to yourself - wisdom from my mom

Photo courtesy of Arthi Ramesh .

Last week was a crazy week. A lot of decisions made – college, career, life!

We teach our kids to be independent thinkers, but then we sometimes worry when they finally decide something on their own;
We keep our kids busy with every activity they enjoy and love, but then sometimes it hurts us when they’re hurt or rejected;
We show them to follow our foot prints so they won’t get lost, but they will make their own foot prints on a different path;
We feel the pins and needles of their anxieties, and we cherish the hugs and kisses of their happiness.

Someone told me that I’ve been taught to rely on myself;
Someone pointed out that I am highly motivated and aggressive if I want something done;
Someone reminded me that I have to look out for myself because no one else will;

It sounds like I’m a totally independent person – but far from it!
I am driven and can be obsessed about something but I still rely on other people.
My family has always been my support, my guidance, my mission.

I believe that I am who I am now partly because of my mom.
She's a strong person who cares deeply about her family.
She cherishes her family first, and I'm blessed that she's my mother.
May is so truly her month. She loves gardening - the flowers just remind me so much of her.

Mom, Philippines is thousands of miles away, I can't hug you right at this moment, but I want you to know that I love and miss you!
This music piece, "Estrellitta, that my 13yo recorded reminds me so much of my mom. I grew-up listening to her play this piano piece.

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  1. Great playing....that was really pretty. That is so sweet you tell your mom you miss her. My parents moved back to China after living in the US for over 20 years. A lot of things you wrote ring true for me as well.

  2. Makes me miss my mom, and she's only one state away! I can't imagine what it would be like if she was in a different country!

  3. Such an inspiring post. Thanks for sharing.

  4. What a nice song. I have my mom near and would miss her if she wasnt!

  5. awe that is so sweet. thank you for sharing. :)

  6. Such a beautiful post! Thanks for sharing.

  7. Honey,
    I had to read this twice and listen to Jonathon's very special gift to your mom twice too.
    It is so beautiful.
    I am sure she cried happy tears. I did too.
    I love you,

  8. That was a beautiful post! I'm the daughter who didn't truly learn to appreciate my mother until I myself became one. She lives two states away and I miss her everyday. I'm trying to get her to move back here lol. I look forward to reading more of your stories and thank you for visiting my blog as well :o)


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